另外,对于那些不方便一起做、或者由于某些原因需要一方包办的家务,比如报税、收纳整理,也是有前提条件的:做事的这方能获得一些满足感,要么是喜欢这件事本身,要么对方能提供情绪安抚。
如果都没有,那还不如摆烂或者花钱请人做,因为怨气会积累,长期以往产生矛盾那简直是板上钉钉的事。
自杀提及
朋友私下发给我看他们学校去年跳楼的一个孩子的遗书。这个社会确实是,选择死都可以理解,不努力和放弃是无法让人理解的。要努力依存各种理由活下去。
《所罗门的伪证》里,对自杀的学生的追悼会上,有人说,「我很想对他说,就算走出学校,世界还很大。在这个世界的某个角落,应该会有一座没有绞刑架的小山。」
我想象着这些小山,会觉得快慰。但认同,不一定要去寻找没有绞刑架的地方,选择放弃、选择走上绞刑架,也可以。没有一定要怎么样。
https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/LDr3bHvqw_90n055l35d1g
一篇关于无性恋组建多人家庭养育小孩的文章
Hot Docs本周五即将上映巴勒斯坦电影《Bye Bye Tiberias》,本片获得了2023年伦敦电影节的Grierson奖,去年也上映了tiff,应该是一部很好的电影。他们现在票有点卖不出去,希望大家可以帮忙支持一下!!
https://hotdocs.ca/whats-on/films/bye-bye-tiberias
“In her early 20s, Hiam Abbass (Succession, Blade Runner 2049) left her native Palestinian village to follow her dream of becoming an actress in Europe, leaving behind her mother, grandmother and seven sisters. Thirty years later, her filmmaker daughter Lina returns with her to the village and questions for the first time her mother’s bold choices, her chosen exile and the way the women in their family influenced both their lives.
Set between past and present, Bye Bye Tiberias pieces together images of today, family footage from the nineties and historical archives to portray four generations of daring Palestinian women who keep their story and legacy alive through the strength of their bonds, despite exile, dispossession, and heartbreak.”
我为平静的生活做了很多。